We need to change what we say and what we allow to be said in front of us.

A deep sense of love and belonging is an irreducible need of all people. We are biologically, cognitively, physically, and spiritually wired to love, to be loved, and to belong. When those needs are not met, we don't function as we were meant to. We break. We fall apart. We numb. We ache. We hurt others. We get sick.

When we deny our stories, They define us. When we own our stories, we get to write the ending.

Rest and play, are as vital to our health as nutrition and exercise

One of the most painfully inauthentic ways we show up in our lives sometimes is saying "yes" when we mean "no," and saying "no" when we mean "hell yes." I'm the oldest of four, a people-pleaser - that's the good girl straitjacket that I wear sometimes. I spent a lot of my life saying yes all the time and then being pissed off and resentful.

If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can't survive.

I became Vulnerability TED, like an action figure - like Ninja Barbie, but I'm Vulnerability TED.