The child knows only that he engages in play because it is enjoyable. He isn't aware of his need to play--a need which has its source in the pressure of unsolved problems. Nor does he know that his pleasure in playing comes from a deep sense of well-being that is the direct result of feeling in control of things, in contrast to the rest of his life, which is managed by his parents or other adults.
Bruno BettelheimNot only is our love for our children sometimes tinged with annoyance, discouragement, and disappointment, the same is true for the love our children feel for us.
Bruno BettelheimTelevision captures the mind but does not liberate it. A good book at once stimulates and frees the mind.
Bruno BettelheimThe unrealistic nature of these tales (which narrowminded rationalists object to) is an important device, because it makes obvious that the fairy talesโ concern is not useful information about the external world, but the inner process taking place in an individual.
Bruno BettelheimWhile criticism or fear of punishment may restrain us from doing wrong, it does not make us wish to do right. Disregarding this simple fact is the great error into which parents and educators fall when they rely on these negative means of correction. The only effective discipline is self-discipline, motivated by the inner desire to act meritoriously in order to do well in one's own eyes, according to one's own values, so that one may feel good about oneself may "have a good conscience.
Bruno Bettelheim