They say, "Katie, you're wrong." And if I say, "How dare you say that? I have studied and studied." Or, "I am an expert in" whatever area we're talking about. Or, "No, you are wrong! And I think you're rude!" Or anything like that, and if we don't say it out loud, maybe we think it, but that's stressful. The moment I've defended, in any way, I've started the war.
Byron KatieHereโs how a child listens: you tell him something, and he puts his own interpretation on what you said. Thatโs what he hears. No one has ever heard you.
Byron Katie