They say, "Katie, you're wrong." And if I say, "How dare you say that? I have studied and studied." Or, "I am an expert in" whatever area we're talking about. Or, "No, you are wrong! And I think you're rude!" Or anything like that, and if we don't say it out loud, maybe we think it, but that's stressful. The moment I've defended, in any way, I've started the war.
Byron KatieI am a lover of what is, not because I'm a spiritual person, but because it hurts when I argue with reality.
Byron KatieHereโs how a child listens: you tell him something, and he puts his own interpretation on what you said. Thatโs what he hears. No one has ever heard you.
Byron KatieWhen we're not defending and justifying, and we're being very still, our answers can and do shock us.
Byron Katie