My experience is the opposite.
War that I have anywhere in my life should stop.
Do you want to meet the love of your life? Look in the mirror.
It's not what happens in life that bothers us. It's what we're believing about it that bothers us.
We don't attach to people or to things; we attach to uninvestigated concepts that we believe to be true in the moment.
I've heard people say that they cling to their painful thoughts because they're afraid that without them they wouldn't be activists for peace. "If I feel peaceful," they say, "why would I bother taking action at all?"