You don't get to vote on what is. Have you noticed?
Thinking that what you want equals what's best for you is a dead end.
That's huge: just to clean up one ecosystem.
No one can give you freedom but you.
After you've been doing inquiry for a while, if you have the thought "She doesn't love me," you just get the immediate turnaround with a smile: "Oh, I'm not loving myself in this moment."
How do you react when you think you need people's love? Do you become a slave for their approval?