If I'm with a man, is that going to prevent me from achieving my goal? What sacrifices will I have to make in terms of being myself, if I'm with a man? Something that young women find out really quickly is that when you start dating, all of a sudden you're supposed to have a role. You're not allowed to just be yourself.

Sex and the City was about looking for Mr Big and trying to find him.

The '80s was all about this idea that women could have it all. You could have a career, and you could have a husband, and you could have children.

Grace was one of those types who never changed but only aged and had no apparent expectations or ambitions other than the wish that her life should remain the same.

Life gives you lots of chances to screw up which means you have just as many chances to get it right.

And if you were always spending your time getting over your past, how were you supposed to get on with your future?

I don't go to parties to meet men. I go to parties to stand in a corner and watch people.