There are no individuals in the world only fragments of families

Shame occurs when you haven't been able to get away with the 'who' you want people to think you are.

Once it's established that we are a team, I can demand of you and expect you to demand of me. Life without pain is an addiction and the fantasy of perpetual happiness is like the "delusion of fusion."

When there are kids involved, there's no such thing as divorce.

Every marriage is a battle between two families struggling to reproduce themselves.

As much as I would miss my wife if she were to die, I would miss what we are together even more. Our "we-ness," our "us-ness."

If we can abandon our missionary zeal we have less chance of being eaten by cannibals.