What can I learn from this? What will I do next time I'm in this situation?

The whole point of marriage is to encourage your partner's development and have them encourage yours.

Vowing, even intense vowing, is often useless. The next day comes and the next day goes. What works is making a vivid, concrete plan.

Choosing a partner is choosing a set of problems. There are no problem-free candidates.

You have to work hardest for the things you love most.

Teaching is a wonderful way to learn.

This is hard. This is fun.