...when people already know they're deficient, they have nothing to lose by trying.
What did you try hard at today?
Wow, that's a really good score. You must have worked really hard.
This is hard. This is fun.
Did I win? Did I lose? Those are the wrong questions. The correct question is: Did I make my best effort?” If so, he says, “You may be outscored but you will never lose.
What can I learn from this? What will I do next time I'm in this situation?