When people get more frustrated by their indecision than by the situation that prompted it, clarity often follows.

I have no quarrel with people who lack the skill or temperament to care for small children.

Separating is not divorcing. Please keep that in mind. It is, instead, the second step in seeing if there's a better way to manage your family.

For some people, the better route for finding like-minded parents is just to get out of your house with your baby and frequent baby-friendly places.

You can't make someone agree with you, not even when you're 100 percent sure you're right.

There has been, for some reason (or more likely an unfortunate accumulation of reasons) a trend over the past several decades for parents to do the work of parenting in the isolation of their own homes - and not only that, this trend has overlapped with the other trend of much deeper parent involvement in raising kids. That you also represent trend No. 3, more people raising kids solo, has only exacerbated a close-to-no-win situation.

It's hard to send your baby off on a plane without you, though that's less reasonable, because sending him off in a car is statistically a bigger risk.