When people get more frustrated by their indecision than by the situation that prompted it, clarity often follows.

There's nothing wrong with being happy somewhere, even if it's the little pond you grew up in, as long as you are in fact comfortable vs. bored.

I'm sure there are people who can toggle quickly from all-in caregiving to structured socializing, but I can't think of any offhand.

When people get more frustrated by their indecision than by the situation that prompted it, clarity often follows.

Sometimes the pain outweighs the good things.

Apparently you have ample proof from experience that you're not going to stop world evil by debating your in-laws into submission, so it's okay to choose not to try.

There is a difference between your parents' not reporting to you everything they do and keeping secrets from you.