Don't freight your answers with any notions of what you're "supposed" to do, and just see where your feelings point you. It can feel weird to be so formal about it, but if you're not used to doing it, then there's no shame in retraining yourself.

Moving is hard. Staying is easy. Logistically speaking, at least. And this is true whether you're doing or undoing something.

I'm not a big fan of the white lie.

You don't want to be with someone who is already not getting from you what he needs emotionally.

For me, the greatest source of frustration was trying to work with a willful child when there was something else I wanted - say, to get the child to go to bed so I could have my own time. Just the promise of the time, and feeling that promise slip away, was enough to introduce a whole other element of stress into the encounter.

For some people, the better route for finding like-minded parents is just to get out of your house with your baby and frequent baby-friendly places.

I'm sure there are people who can toggle quickly from all-in caregiving to structured socializing, but I can't think of any offhand.