If you're not sure what you want, then hold back from making plans or responding to invitations until you have a chance to think about it.
Carolyn HaxIt's hard to send your baby off on a plane without you, though that's less reasonable, because sending him off in a car is statistically a bigger risk.
Carolyn HaxI'm sure there are people who can toggle quickly from all-in caregiving to structured socializing, but I can't think of any offhand.
Carolyn Hax