If the guests want to wrest the check away from the host, because the host is also the guest of honor, then the guest who volunteers has to cover the whole thing. A guest can't volunteer -all- of the guests to pay for the host/honoree.

You don't want someone who can't tell the difference between having a different opinion and dismissing your opinion.

I'm sure there are people who can toggle quickly from all-in caregiving to structured socializing, but I can't think of any offhand.

No matter what else comes, your courage will be your companion for life.

Make sure you have legal cover for what you're doing.

Once given, a gift is yours to use, store or dispose of as you see fit.

I have no quarrel with people who lack the skill or temperament to care for small children.