Your job is to be you, which includes being the chief beneficiary of all things you do right, the chief victim of all you do wrong, and the one person on Earth who has to live with every choice you make. As gatekeeper to your life, you’re it.

I think a person who arranges the event and orders the food also picks up the check - even the birthday person, even when people at the table insist on paying for the birthday person.

A lot of support gets withheld out of fear of awkwardness and misspeaking.

Waiting for someone to propose to you only passes the "Really, it's tradition!" sniff test when both of you think it's the man's job to propose and both of you think that's awesome.

Moving is hard. Staying is easy. Logistically speaking, at least. And this is true whether you're doing or undoing something.

You can't make someone agree with you, not even when you're 100 percent sure you're right.

It's okay to forgive yourself immediately and for good.