It's okay to forgive yourself immediately and for good.

Moving is hard. Staying is easy. Logistically speaking, at least. And this is true whether you're doing or undoing something.

I think a person who arranges the event and orders the food also picks up the check - even the birthday person, even when people at the table insist on paying for the birthday person.

Of course the thoughts and awareness are there, but it's all incomplete and often fanciful - kids know there's something to know, and they fill in a bunch of the blanks with their imaginations if their parents haven't had the conversations and/or established themselves as sources of information. It's rare that the kids know nothing at all, and the somethings they do know are often only partially right or flat-out wrong.

Being negative is easy. There will always be a downside to everything good, a hurdle to everything desirable, a con to every pro. The real courage is in finding the good in what you have, the opportunities in every hurdle, the pros in every con.

When you fail to see something, that doesn't mean I'm hiding it.

Being highly invested and preoccupied by an emotionally consuming mission tends to steal resources from other aspects of your emotional life.