It's okay to forgive yourself immediately and for good.

Being negative is easy. There will always be a downside to everything good, a hurdle to everything desirable, a con to every pro. The real courage is in finding the good in what you have, the opportunities in every hurdle, the pros in every con.

There's nothing wrong with being happy somewhere, even if it's the little pond you grew up in, as long as you are in fact comfortable vs. bored.

All of us assign different values to things, and not all of those values are going to line up with others'.

I think a person who arranges the event and orders the food also picks up the check - even the birthday person, even when people at the table insist on paying for the birthday person.

You don't want to be with someone who is already not getting from you what he needs emotionally.

I'm sure there are people who can toggle quickly from all-in caregiving to structured socializing, but I can't think of any offhand.