When you fail to see something, that doesn't mean I'm hiding it.

You can't make people like you under the best of circumstances, and you certainly can't make them like you while you're actively badgering them on what you perceive to be their failures of conscience.

When in doubt, respond to what you witness, not what you hear secondhand.

If you are being shuffled around, then you should feel shuffled around.

When you fail to see something, that doesn't mean I'm hiding it.

Almost no one can take on an entire future in one step, much less while reeling emotionally.

There has been, for some reason (or more likely an unfortunate accumulation of reasons) a trend over the past several decades for parents to do the work of parenting in the isolation of their own homes - and not only that, this trend has overlapped with the other trend of much deeper parent involvement in raising kids. That you also represent trend No. 3, more people raising kids solo, has only exacerbated a close-to-no-win situation.