I'm not a big fan of the white lie.

You can't make someone agree with you, not even when you're 100 percent sure you're right.

I actually recommend as little actual counting as possible in a life partnership. But, when there's a sense of injustice brewing between you, some counting is inevitable, and so my advice is to count using as broad a scope as possible. It's not just hours worked or chores done, either, and it's not even just about the household - it's a system of Whole Marriage Thinking. It's about hours worked, chores done, goals supported, emotional needs met, everything. What it all takes out of you, what it all gives back. It all factors in.

I have no quarrel with people who lack the skill or temperament to care for small children.

You don't want to be with someone who is already not getting from you what he needs emotionally.

The most reliable ways to make oneself miserable are attempting to change people and not attempting to change circumstances.

The topic of sexual education makes me nuts, because kids are certainly not now and have rarely ever been "clueless" about what adults do and delude themselves about keeping from their kids. Especially now that so many of them are carrying the entire internet around in their pockets.