Tell a child, a husband or an employee that he is stupid or dumb at a certain thing, that he has no gift for it, and that he is doing it all wrong and you have destroyed almost every incentive to try to improve. But use the opposite technique, be liberal with encouragement; make the thing seem easy to do, let the other person know that you have faith in his ability to do it, that he has an undeveloped flair for it - and he will practice until the dawn comes in at the window in order to excel.
Dale CarnegieIt isnโt what you have or who you are or where you are or what youโre doing that makes you happy or unhappy. Itโs what you think of it. Two people may in the same place doing the same thing, and yet one may be miserable and the other happy. Why? Because of a different mental attitude.
Dale CarnegieThree-fourths of the people you will ever meet are hungering and thirsting for sympathy. Give it to them, and they will love you.
Dale Carnegie