The chronic kicker, even the most violent critic, will frequently soften and be subdued in the presence of a patient, sympathetic listenerโ a listener who will be silent while the irate fault-finder dilates like a king cobra and spews the poison out of his system.
Dale CarnegieIn a Nutshell - Fundamental Techniques In Handling People; Principle 1 - Don't criticize, condemn or complain; Principle 2 - Give honest and sincere appreciation; Principle 3 - Arouse in the other person an eager want.
Dale CarnegieWhen we hate our enemies, we are giving them power over us: power over our sleep, our appetites, our blood pressure, our health and our happiness. Our enemies would dance with joy if only they knew how they were worrying us, lacerating us, and getting even with us! Our hate is not hurting them at al, but our hate is turning our days and nights into a hellish turmoil.
Dale Carnegie