A huge part of what animates homophobia among young people is paranoia and fear of their own capacity to be gay themselves.
Dan SavageEvery American may have equal access to ice cream, but there's no guarantee that the outcome of eating ice cream will be equal.
Dan SavageChristmas can have a real melancholy aspect, 'cause it packages itself as this idea of perfect family cohesion and love, and you're always going to come up short when you measure your personal life against the idealized personal lives that are constantly thrust in our faces, primarily by TV commercials.
Dan Savage