For the high achievers, studying gave them the pleasing, absorbing challenge of flow 40 percent of the hours they spent at it. But for low achievers, studying produced flow only 16 percent of the time; more often that not, it yielded anxiety, with the demands outreaching their abilities...The low achievers found pleasure and flow in socializing, not in studying.
Daniel GolemanI think the smartest thing for people to do to manage very distressing emotions is to take a medication if it helps, but don't do only that. You also need to train your mind.
Daniel GolemanSimply paying attention allows us to build an emotional connection. Lacking attention, empathy hasn't a chance.
Daniel GolemanThe basic premise that children must learn about emotions is that all feelings are okay to have; however, only some reactions are okay.
Daniel Goleman