Every problem must find it's owner before we can ever offer a solution

Discipline works from the inside out, and punishment tries to work from the outside in.

The more others encounter us honoring the boundaries we have set for our lives, the more they will know that they can trust us with their lives.

Every problem must find it's owner before we can ever offer a solution

Yes, it's vulnerable and scary to keep your love on toward someone who has become a perceived threat-you cannot guarantee what he or she is going to do. But you can guarantee your own choice. And you can always choose connection.

The First Goal of Conversation: Understanding, not Agreement

Typically, people allow differences and mistakes to lower their respect and value for other people. But you know the pillar of honor is strong in a relationship when you can look at the other person and say, “You are really different from me. It makes me sad when I see you making that choice. But I love you. I value you, I believe in you, and I am here for you in this relationship.