The more others encounter us honoring the boundaries we have set for our lives, the more they will know that they can trust us with their lives.

The First Goal of Conversation: Understanding, not Agreement

Yes, it's vulnerable and scary to keep your love on toward someone who has become a perceived threat-you cannot guarantee what he or she is going to do. But you can guarantee your own choice. And you can always choose connection.

Every problem must find it's owner before we can ever offer a solution

If you want to make a difference, then get good at doing something and not just talking about something

The more others encounter us honoring the boundaries we have set for our lives, the more they will know that they can trust us with their lives.

Typically, people allow differences and mistakes to lower their respect and value for other people. But you know the pillar of honor is strong in a relationship when you can look at the other person and say, “You are really different from me. It makes me sad when I see you making that choice. But I love you. I value you, I believe in you, and I am here for you in this relationship.