Love is the foundation from which your decisions about your life should be made.
Choosing to be miserable is an option, but not one I recommend.
If you want to grow, you must learn to let go.
Be who you want to be, do what it takes to be that way, and in time, you will have what you want in life.
The process of letting go is like taking a journey to the center of your being.
The ego constantly competes with the spirit for control over your inner voice.