The ego's form of happiness can't exist without unhappiness. The ego will be happy when something good happens but unhappy when it ends.
Eckhart TolleWhen you live in surrender, something comes through you into the world of duality that is not of this world.
Eckhart TolleI don't want it to end, and so, as every therapist knows, the ego does not want an end to its โproblemsโ because they are part of its identity. If no one will listen to my sad story, I can tell it to myself in my head, over and over, and feel sorry for myself, and so have an identity as someone who is being treated unfairly by life or other people, fate or God. It gives definition to my self-image, makes me into someone, and that is all that matters to the ego.
Eckhart Tolle