You cannot be both unhappy, and fully present in the Now.

"Going with the flow" is for some people an excuse for not taking action and it refers usually to one's life situation.

A self - a me - exists in every thought and every emotion. Suffering arises through complete identification with thinking and emotions.

No practice can take you to liberation. That is important to know. It can be a little step that is useful until you realize you don't need it anymore, because after a certain point it becomes a hindrance.

Suffering needs time. It cannot survive in the now.

What you react to in others, you strengthen in yourself.

Actually, the ability to choose presence depends on the degree of presence that's emerging in you. Ultimately, you are not choosing, there's nobody there to choose. When you think you are choosing, presence is simply emerging in that moment.