Someday you're gonna look back on this moment of your life as such a sweet time of grieving. You'll see that you were in mourning and your heart was broken, but your life was changing.

Do I really deserve this pleasure? This is American, too-the insecurity about whether we have earned our happiness.

Do not apologize for crying. Without this emotion, we are only robots.

I think a lot of people who feel as though they desperately want to be married oftentimes simply desperately want to have a wedding.

This is what rituals are for. We do spiritual ceremonies as human beings in order to create a safe resting place for our most complicated feelings of joy or trauma, so that we don't have to haul those feelings around with us forever, weighing us down. We all need such places of ritual safekeeping. And I do believe that if your culture or tradition doesn't have the specific ritual you are craving, then you are absolutely permitted to make up a ceremony of your own devising, fixing your own broken-down emotional systems with all the do-it-yourself resourcefulness of a generous plumber/poet.

I don't think you can say that feminism has made women critical of marriage because women have been critical of marriage for centuries.

The day is ending. It's time for something that was beautiful to turn into something else that is beautiful. Now, Let go.