The truth is that we can overhaul our surroundings, renovate our environment, talk a new game, join a new club, far more easily than we can change the way we respond emotionally. It is easier to change behavior than feelings about that behavior.
Ellen GoodmanWe want our children to fit in and to stand out. We rarely address the conflict between these goals.
Ellen GoodmanHow many of the people I know - sons and daughters - have intricate abstract expressionist paintings of their mothers, created out of their own emotions, attitudes, hands. And how many have only Polaroid pictures of their fathers.
Ellen GoodmanWhen we describe what the other person is really like, I suppose we often picture what we want. We look through the prism of our need.
Ellen Goodman