Sometimes people back themselves into corners where they think they have to make kind of an engraved-in-stone decision.

I counseled a 75-year-old married, bi-sexual man who was having a gay affair and was not having sex with his wife to continue his secret life because that seemed like the kindest thing to do. But a young woman embarking on married life, hoping to start a family with her husband, needs to at least know he's already living a double life.

I agree that not responding, and blocking his email, is the way to deal with the man you hope falls silent again.

I am against lying, but just because someone asks a question does not mean you have to answer it.

Sometimes people back themselves into corners where they think they have to make kind of an engraved-in-stone decision.

The sadness from reading letters that you know you can't help because it's a person who's in extremis and their problems are not soluble by an advice column.

You may think you're married to a woman, but she's really an overgrown child.