Do not seek to bring things to pass in accordance with your wishes, but wish for them as they are, and you will find them.
EpictetusDon’t consent to be hurt and you won’t be hurt – this is a choice over which you have control
EpictetusAuthentic happiness is always independent of external conditions. Vigilantly practice polite indifference to that which we can't control. Your happiness can only be found within.
EpictetusWhat hurts this person is not the occurrence itself, for another person might not feel oppressed by this situation at all. What is hurting this person is the response he or she has uncritically adopted. It is not a demonstration of kindness or friendship to the people we care about to join them in indulging in wrongheaded, negative feelings.
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