Appearances to the mind are of four kinds. Things either are what they appear to be; or they neither are, nor appear to be; or they are, and do not appear to be; or they are not, and yet appear to be. Rightly to aim in all these cases is the wise man's task.
EpictetusImagine for yourself a character, a model personality, whose example you determine to follow, in private as well as in public.
EpictetusYou ought to choose both physician and friend, not the most agreeable, but the most useful.
Epictetus