If someone speaks badly of you, do not defend yourself against the accusations, but reply; "you obviously don't know about my other vices, otherwise you would have mentioned these as well
EpictetusNo man is free who is not master of himself... Is freedom anything else than the power of living as we choose?
EpictetusIt is better to advise than upbraid, for the one corrects the erring; the other only convicts them.
Epictetus