We cannot choose our external circumstances, but we can always choose how we respond to them.
EpictetusWhat is it that every man seeks? To be secure, to be happy, to do what he pleases without restraint and without compulsion.
EpictetusIn life our first job is this, to divide and distinguish things into two categories: externals I cannot control, but the choices I make with regard to them I do control. Where will I find good and bad? In me, in my choices.
Epictetus