If I walk in the house, and I greet my wife, and I give her a hug, kiss her on the cheek, and I say to her, "Honey, how'd your day go," and I listed to how her day went. If I say, "Is there anything I can do to help you," and she tells me, "Honey, if you could peel the potatoes," or whatever, I have influenced my wife in a very positive way.

At the heart of mankind's existence is the desire to be intimate and to be loved by another. Marriage is designed to meet that need for intimacy and love.

Every single day in a marriage, we influence each other. It is a matter of am I going to have a positive influence or a negative influence?

When I admit my own imperfections, it doesn't mean I am a bad person.

The in-love experience does not focus on our own growth or on the growth and development of the other person. Rather, it gives us the sense that we have arrived and that we do not need further growth.

The object of love is not getting something you want but doing something for the well-being of the one you love.

Our spouse will usually interpret our message based on our tone of voice, not the words we use.