The in-love experience does not focus on our own growth or on the growth and development of the other person. Rather, it gives us the sense that we have arrived and that we do not need further growth.

Forgiveness is not a feeling; it is a commitment. It is a choice to show mercy, not to hold the offense up against the offender. Forgiveness is an expression of love.

Most people spend far more time in preparation for their vocation than they do in preparation for marriage.

The person who is "in-love" has the ilusion that his beloved is perfect.

I wrote this book [ Desperate Marriages] because of my own marriage. My wife and I struggled greatly in the early years of marriage. In spite of the fact that we were Christians before we got married, we prayed about getting married, we believed it was God's will for us to get married, and we still had great struggles.

We cannot erase the past, but we can accept it as history.

God has the potential of touching people's hearts and changing them.