We cannot rely on our native tongue if our spouse does not understand it. If we want them to feel the love we are trying to communicate, we must express it in his or her primary love language.
Gary ChapmanI have been doing marriage counseling for about 15 years and I realized that what makes one person feel loved, doesn't make another person feel loved.
Gary ChapmanLove is always freely given. Love cannot be demanded. We can request things of each other, but we must never demand anything. Requests give direction to love, but demands stop the flow of love.
Gary ChapmanThe in-love experience does not focus on our own growth or on the growth and development of the other person. Rather, it gives us the sense that we have arrived and that we do not need further growth.
Gary Chapman