I wrote this book [ Desperate Marriages] because of my own marriage. My wife and I struggled greatly in the early years of marriage. In spite of the fact that we were Christians before we got married, we prayed about getting married, we believed it was God's will for us to get married, and we still had great struggles.

All of us blossom when we feel loved and wither when we do not feel loved.

This is a huge thing if you are going to have a positive impact on your spouse. You have to not only realize this, but you have to practice this.

Respect begins with this attitude: "I acknowledge that you are a creature of extreme worth. God has endowed you with certain abilities and emotions. Therefore I respect you as a person. I will not desecrate your worth by making critical remarks about your intellect, your judgment or your logic. I will seek to understand you and grant you the freedom to think differently from the way I think and to experience emotions that I may not experience." Respect means that you give the other person the freedom to be an individual.

I think people desperately want to feel love.

Love is a choice you make everyday.

The one who chooses to love will find appropriate ways to express that decision everyday.