You cannot create a life of fulfillment, joy, and meaning while you are barricading yourself from others and from the opportunities Life offers you.
Gary ZukavWhen someone new comes into your life and suddenly you feel more alive, more beautiful, more sexual, more creative, more desirable and more engaged; you feel that this new person is the key to those feelings. But actually, you have these qualities too. What you don't see and don't acknowledge in yourself, you project onto someone else. Carl Jung explored this very well. He called it projection.
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