Most of our suffering comes from resisting what is already here, particularly our feelings. All any feeling wants is to be welcomed, touched, allowed. It wants attention. It wants kindness. If you treated your feelings with as much love as you treated your dog or your cat or your child, you'd feel as if you were living in heaven every day of your sweet life.
Geneen RothYou will stop turning to food when you start understanding in your body, not just your mind, that there is something better...Truth, not force, does the work of ending compulsive eating.
Geneen RothChange happens when you understand what you want to change so deeply that there is no reason to do anything but act in your own best interest.
Geneen RothWe need to build our friendships on truth and wholeness. We need friends who can be with us in our loneliness, not people who will cheer us up so that we donโt feel it. We need friends who get furious with us when we are not being real or true to ourselves, not when we donโt do what they want us to do.
Geneen RothOur work is not to change what you do, but to witness what you do with enough awareness, enough curiosity, enough tenderness that the lies and old decisions upon which the compulsion is based become apparent and fall away. When you no longer believe that eating will save your life when you feel exhausted or overwhelmed or lonely, you will stop. When you believe in yourself more than you believe in food, you will stop using food as if it were your only chance at not falling apart. When the shape of your body no longer matches the shape of your beliefs, the weight disappears.
Geneen Roth