We always want to change the channel in our minds because we don't like what's going on. It's uncomfortable.

Its not so much that we believe what we see, but that we see what we believe

If you try to lose weight by shaming, depriving and fearing yourself, you will end up shamed, deprived, and afraid. Kindness comes first. Always.

Staying requires being curious about who you actually are when you don't take yourself to be a collection of memories.When you don't infer your existence from replaying what happened to you, when you don't take yourself to be the girl your mother/father/brother/teacher/lover didn't see or adore. When you sense yourself directly, immediately, right now, without preconception, who are you?

If LOVE could talk to you about your relationship with food, what would it say?

Bingeing is such an emotionally frenetic activity that no other concerns can exist in the same space. It is a hell that people who are food-sensitive are familiar with; and, because it is known, it is therefore not so terrifying as some of the problems that are outside our control. Problems like divorce, illness, death.

I tell my retreat students that they need to remember two things: to eat what they want when they're hungry and to feel what they feel when they're not.