Each time that you don't know you are choosing, then of those choices you are not the chooser.
An unattended mind is the breeding ground of self-defeat.
Most people would rather complain about some painful life pattern than dare to meet the level of their own consciousness responsible for its repeated appearance... and therein do the work needed to change it once and for all.
The limit of your present understanding is not the limit of your possibilities.
You have a destination far beyond where you find yourself standing today.
Looking to any angry, anxious, or otherwise stressed emotional state to help you sort out the pain you're in is like trying to organize your monthly bills by throwing them into a blender