Each of us carries within himself a collection of instant insults.

Teenagers crave independence. The more self-suf-ficient we make them feel, the less hostile they are toward us.

To be himself, one neeeds to be free from the pressure of evaluative praise

Misbehavior and punishment are not opposites that cancel each other - on the contrary they breed and reinforce each other.

Parenthood is an endless series of small events, periodic conflicts, and sudden crises which call for a response. The response is not without consequence: it affects personality for better or for worse.

I have great faith in 'ordinary parents.' Who has a child's welfare more at heart than his ordinary parent? It's been my experience that when parents are given the skills to be more helpful, not only are they able to use these skills, but they infuse them with a warmth and a style that is uniquely their own.

To sense when a teenager needs understanding and when misunderstanding is a difficult and delicate task. The sad truth is that no matter how wise we are, we cannot be right for any length of time in our teenagers' eyes.