To be himself, one neeeds to be free from the pressure of evaluative praise

Misbehavior and punishment are not opposites that cancel each other - on the contrary they breed and reinforce each other.

Parenthood is an endless series of small events, periodic conflicts, and sudden crises which call for a response. The response is not without consequence: it affects personality for better or for worse.

Wise parents know that fighting a teenager, like fighting a riptide, is inviting doom.

If we treat people as they are, we make them worse. If we treat people as they ought to be, we help them become what they are capable of becoming.

I can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration. I can humiliate or heal. In all situations, it is my response that decides whether a crisis will be escalated or de-escalated and a child humanized or dehumanized.

Only if a child feels right can he think right.