Responsibility is fostered by allowing children a voice and wherever indicated a choice in matters that affect them.

If we treat people as they are, we make them worse. If we treat people as they ought to be, we help them become what they are capable of becoming.

To sense when a teenager needs understanding and when misunderstanding is a difficult and delicate task. The sad truth is that no matter how wise we are, we cannot be right for any length of time in our teenagers' eyes.

When a child hits a child, we call it aggression. When a child hits an adult, we call it hostility. When an adult hits an adult, we call it assault. When an adult hits a child, we call it discipline.

Teenagers crave independence. The more self-suf-ficient we make them feel, the less hostile they are toward us.

Each of us carries within himself a collection of instant insults.

Misbehavior and punishment are not opposites that cancel each other - on the contrary they breed and reinforce each other.