Although it's not useful to drown in despair, it's also not useful to keep a 'positive attitude' when this means concealing or denying real emotions.

Intensity is not the same as intimacy, although we tend to confuse these two words.

We begin to change the dynamic of our relationships as we are able to share our reactions to others without holding them responsible for causing our feelings, and without blaming ourselves for the reactions that other people have in response to our choices & actions. We are responsible for our own behavior and we are not responsible for other people's reactions; nor are they responsible for ours.

The strongest relationships are between two people who can live without each other but don't want to.

Every time I open Facebook, I see a post with something like, "We must forgive or be prisoners of our own bitterness and hate." People think that forgiveness is all-or-nothing, but this myth hurts people. You can forgive 10, 97, or 14 percent. Forgiveness is complicated.

Self-help books for women are part of a multibillion-dollar industry, sensitively attuned to our insecurities and our purses.

Being in touch with our bodies, or more accurately, being our bodies, is how we know what is true. Harriet