Although it's not useful to drown in despair, it's also not useful to keep a 'positive attitude' when this means concealing or denying real emotions.

Those of us who are locked into ineffective expressions of anger suffer as deeply as those of us who dare not get angry at all.

The bolder and more courageous you are, the more you will learn about yourself.

Many of our problems with anger occur when we choose between having a relationship and having a self.

Feeling inadequate is an occupational hazard of motherhood.

Being able to make a sincere apology - one that says, "Yes, I get it; I screwed up. Your feelings make sense, and I'm taking this seriously" - is at the heart of being successful in leadership, parenting, and friendship, as well as our own integrity and self-worth. And the failure to apologize? Even a good relationship will suffer quietly - because we really feel it when someone won't take responsibility for what they said, or didn't say.

Pretending can be a bold form of experimentation and inventiveness. In pretending joy or happiness, we may discover or enhance our capacity for it.