Every time I open Facebook, I see a post with something like, "We must forgive or be prisoners of our own bitterness and hate." People think that forgiveness is all-or-nothing, but this myth hurts people. You can forgive 10, 97, or 14 percent. Forgiveness is complicated.

We all fear change, even as we seek it.

Only through our connectedness to others can we really know and enhance the self. And only through working on the self can we begin to enhance our connectedness to others.

Telling a true story about personal experience is not just a matter of being oneself, or even or finding oneself. It is also a matter of choosing oneself.

Differences don’t just threaten and divide us. They also inform, enrich, and enliven us.

Self-help books for women are part of a multibillion-dollar industry, sensitively attuned to our insecurities and our purses.

We will be in tune with our bodies only if we truly love and honor them. We can't be in good communication with the enemy.