Only through our connectedness to others can we really know and enhance the self. And only through working on the self can we begin to enhance our connectedness to others.

Differences don’t just threaten and divide us. They also inform, enrich, and enliven us.

Underground issues from one relationship or context invariably fuel our fires in another.

Those of us who are locked into ineffective expressions of anger suffer as deeply as those of us who dare not get angry at all.

Believing that all women should want to be mothers makes about as much sense as believing that all men should want to be engineers.

Fear is a message - sometimes helpful, sometimes not - but often conveying critical information about our beliefs, our needs, and our relationship to the world around us.

It is an act of courage to acknowledge our own uncertainty and sit with it for a while.