If you are building a culture where honest expectations are communicated and peer accountability is the norm, then the group will address poor performance and attitudes.

If you continue to blame other people for “making” you feel guilty, they still have power over you, and you are saying that you will only feel good when they stop doing that. You are giving them control over your life. Stop blaming other people.

The extent to which two people in a relationship can bring up and resolve issues is a critical marker of the soundness of a relationship.

The amount of truth a relationship can handle is proportional to the amount of perceived love that's present.

You aren't alive if you aren't in need.

When truth presents itself, the wise person see the light, takes it in, and makes adjustments. The fool tries to adjust the truth so he does not have to adjust to it.

Things don't change in a marriage until the spouse who is taking responsibility for a problem that is not hers decides to say or do something about it.