The human heart will seek to be known, understood, and connected with above all else. If you do not connect, the ones you care about will find someone who will.

To get greater than 100% return on a growth step, give up defensiveness. Defensiveness stifles performance, and destroys relationships.

Dating is a place to practice how to relate to other people.

The Bible is clear about two principles: (1) We always need to forgive, but (2) we don’t always achieve reconciliation. Forgiveness is something that we do in our hearts; we release someone from a debt that they owe us. We write off the person’s debt, and she no longer owes us. We no longer condemn her. She is clean. Only one party is needed for forgiveness: me. The person who owes me a debt does not have to ask my forgiveness. It is a work of grace in my heart.

The mature person meets the demands of life, while the immature person demands that life meet her demands.

We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change.

People tend to look at dating sort of like a safari - like they're trying to land the trophy.