Dating is about finding out who you are and who others are. If you show up in a masquerade outfit, neither is going to happen.

You have to be able to face losing some things you might want in order to be free to do the right thing.

One of the first signs that you’re beginning to develop boundaries is a sense of resentment, frustration, or anger at the subtle and not-so-subtle violations in your life. Just as radar signals the approach of a foreign missile, your anger can alert you to boundary violations in your life.

The extent to which two people in a relationship can bring up and resolve issues is a critical marker of the soundness of a relationship.

When leaders lead in ways that people's brains can follow, good results follow as well.

If you continue to blame other people for “making” you feel guilty, they still have power over you, and you are saying that you will only feel good when they stop doing that. You are giving them control over your life. Stop blaming other people.

There is a big difference between hurt and harm. We all hurt sometimes in facing hard truths, but it makes us grow. It can be the source of huge growth. That is not harmful. Harm is when you damage someone. Facing reality is usually not a damaging experience, even though it can hurt.